The Rule of Personal Responsibility A relationship involves two people, each bringing their own thoughts, expectations, experiences, and ways of responding to conflict.  When we focus entirely on what our partner did wrong, we can lose sight of our own contribution to the interaction.  Taking personal responsibility does not mean accepting blame for everything that happens.  It means

How Changing the Way You Think Can Change the Way You Feel Have you ever noticed that two people can experience the exact same situation and feel completely differently about it?  Two people walk into a room where they don’t know anyone.  One thinks: “This could be fun.  Maybe I’ll meet someone interesting.”  The other thinks: “I’m going to

A marriage doesn’t always reach a difficult place because of one major event.  Sometimes the distance develops slowly, through disappointments that were never fully resolved, conversations that ended without understanding, and needs that went unspoken because one or both partners no longer expected anything to change. Affection may have become less frequent, conversations may revolve around

Have you ever gotten home after a conversation and found yourself replaying it hours later?  You start wondering why you said something, whether the other person was upset, or what you should have said instead.  Sometimes the conversation happened days, months, or even years ago, yet your mind brings it back as though there is still something